Why New Years Resolutions Don't Work For Me

Have you ever heard me say that words are EVERYTHING? They Are. It's what binds and creates the very world we live in. We label, describe, engage with and associate our lives THROUGH WORDS. They manipulate and master our minds. (Yes, I have noticed the M, M, M thing I did there. Pretty cool huh?).

So why don't N. Y. Resolutions work for me? I shall explain...

Definition of RESOLUTION: 'a firm decision to do or not to do something'

REASONS, PART 1:

When I make a resolution, I decide upon an activity. DECIDE comes from the family of 'CIDE' (Hey where are you going? Stick with it, it seems like I'm going off track, but stick with it!)

Definition of CIDE: 'denoting an act of killing'...hence, familiar, tragic words such as 'suiCIDE, fratriCIDE, homiCIDE, infantiCIDE, genoCIDE and even pestiCIDE.

Cide added to a word means that you're killing something off. In the case of deCIDE I'm killing off one option in order to follow another.

REASONS, PART 2:

Do I really want to start the year deciding whether to do or not to do something? I, mean, I do that all the time. As facetious as may sound, I'm utterly sincere. How will deciding to 'do something' which is a, regular, practice I partake in anyway radically change my life?

CONCLUSION:

New Years Resolutions don't work for me because I don't wish to kill an option in order to select another one. Also the mere act of 'deciding' to do 'something' is exactly that: a mere act. I'm out to change my life here.

THE ALTERNATIVE:

Remember it's all in the WORDS. 

Retaining the family of '-TION': a suffix occurring in words of Latin origin, used to form abstract nouns from verbs... as expressing ACTION.

Instead of RESOLU-TION I choose similar yet much more POWERFUL words:

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Definition of EVOLUTION: 'any process of formation or growth; development'

Definition of REVOLUTION: 'a sudden, complete or marked change in something'

These two words a 100 times more engaging and dynamic for me. They engender a sense of movement; migration rather than the static, fixed stance that 'resolution' conjures. 

This year I want my life to positively evolve from the year before and in order to do that there must be some kind of revolution that occurs first in language and thought, then in action; producing a revolutionary result.

This is what I'm committed to for 2015. 

And this is why New Years Resolutions Don't Work For Me.

Someone I know posted this beautiful quote, on Facebook, by Neil Gaiman. It's now become my mantra.

Enjoy, oh and Happy New Years Revolution/Evolution!!!

"I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're Doing Something.

So that's my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody's ever made before. Don't freeze, don't stop, don't worry that it isn't good enough, or it isn't perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.

Whatever it is you're scared of doing, Do it.

Make your mistakes, next year and forever."

NEIL GAIMAN